Well, let’s face it. For most of you, sex is what got you to where you are today (pregnant, I mean). And if you are, there’s no reason to stop sexual activity now. Many women and couples worry that sex isn’t safe for the baby and while there are situations where sex isn’t safe, for the most part you can feel confident enjoying sex as often as you would like. When is sex not safe?
- If you have a history of preterm labor or birth
- Unexplained vaginal bleeding (see note below)
- Leaking amniotic fluid
- Your cervix opens prematurely
- You have a partial or complete covering of the cervix with placental tissue (placenta previa)
*Note: As your pregnancy progresses, sex can actually cause light vaginal bleeding. Increased blood flow to the cervix makes the tissue more delicate and likely to bleed when bumped by the penis. I would tell you not to worry about a little light spotting after sex, but if it lasts longer than a few minutes, has clots or you notice any leaking fluid, call your doctor. Make sure to mention you had sex.
Now. Moving on…
- It’s okay if you don’t feel like having sex during your first trimester. Nausea, fatigue, breasts that feel like concrete and/or like they’ve been run over by a truck can all make you feel like hiding on the other side of the bed. Talk with your partner and explain your feelings–and take heart–your second trimester is ahead, and things will get better.
- Emotional swings and worries about how a baby may affect your relationship with your partner is another common worry that can put out your sexual fire. Try talking to your partner if they are there, seek out a trusted friend or talk to your doctor about resources for single moms.
- During your second trimester expect a surge in your sex drive. It’s during this time that you will probably feel your best. Your belly’s not too big yet, your nausea should be easing off and your sex drive will surge. Enjoy it as long as you can and experiment with positions you like.
- As your body grows and changes finding a comfortable position may be hard. Try not to lay flat on your back for a couple of reasons. First, it’s plain old uncomfortable and second it can reduce blood flow to the baby by putting pressure on major blood vessels in the abdomen. Side position, or something else creative is best.
Do you have questions about sex during pregnancy? Call Doctor Hessel today and make your appointment for help with those intimate questions.